Barriers

I've never writen anything like this. This is what I've posted on a certain topic in Gamer Can. I could simply not believe that I wrote something like this. Anyway, read on...

This topic is about the various levels on discerning what is love from infatuation... It's kina like a draft though... expect some changes soom, maybe even find a hard bound copy of it (asa)

Level 1: Attraction

Everything begins here. Every physical aspect of the person you admire from the way she looks to the way she speaks contribute to leading yourself to one thing: "crush ko 'to". Anyways, You begin to accept her peculiarities... "so what if her nose looks so small? So what if her armpits are dark? She's still cute" you say. You begin to accept her physical self nonetheless.

Level 2: The Inner self: Phase 1

You begin to catch her attitude. After you get past level one, you begin to think about her for a while. Day in and day out she is what you think about. You tell her to your friends, you talk about her. Though unconsciously, your attitudes, behaviour and actions tell that you are feeling for her... And by the way, you have accepted her by who she is... You befriended her friends, you made your way through her circle of friends. And all of her freinds tell you that she's a great person. You immediately agree so...

"This must be love" you discern. But how exactly will you be sure? One way of finding out and thus we proceed to level 3.

Level 3: The inner self: Phase 2

How will you know her more? You think of silly things like rescuing her from a near to death situation, helping her out in her most desperate times, getting her drunk, and you even go as far as sleeping with her (although not at the same bed). During her dark times you get to know a person... and if you play your cards right, she might open up to you, and if she does, if she confides to you in private, and she tells you secrets that only you know, then consider yourself lucky. In this critical stage You should start being yourself in case you've merely showed only a facade of yourself. Also in this stage you begin to accept her imperfections. What you've percieved as your "lovely maiden" may not be so lovely if you find out something nasty about her.

Nevertheless, if you go past this level, you can say that you're definitely in love. You begin to accpet her for who she is and you are ready to make the ultimate sacrifice for her.

*note: I got as far as this level. there was this girl who I trully loved. I got as far as knowing her friends, I got to know how her bestfriend was, I knew her parents, and I also saw her sleep quietly in bed. It was a sight that took my breath away (wala akong ginawa dun na masama...)

Now there is this one level that's left. After you've discerned her from the rest of the girls and she passed your levels of "barriers". there is one special barrier that needs to be broken. What makes it special is because instead of her breaking tha barrier, It is you who should exert the effort to break this barrier. The last one is:

Level 4: Getting her to like you

So she met all of your standards. You've accepted her physically. You get to know her friends, you accepted her for who she was. Now, the biggest question that defines your future will be:"Will she like me for who I am?". You court her, buy her some gifts, spend time with her... the process of "panliligaw" takes a long process before she finally says "yes". Well, I can't say much about this topic since I have no experience whatsoever in this field.

That's why you should consider yourself lucky if you're being loved by the one you love. And as the old adage goes: "Love should be the union of hearts. It can't go on when one of it runs out of love.".. or something like that...There... that's what I call the "Radius barriers". Although it only focuses on "while getting a relationship" and not "what to do when you get there." But nonetheless, you have accepted her on who she is and what she looks like... and if you're lucky, she accepts you the same way.

Sadly, there are a few couples to get to live it out "happily ever after" because most couples get hungry of "love" that they discern "infatuation" from "love". They take shortcuts and don't think carefully, that's why we end up on broken families like mine. So if your parents are still together, pat them on the back because throguh all of these times, they still stood by each other no matter what happened.

I belong to a broken family so I deeply appreciate couples who are toghether through the times...

Thank you for listening to my boring story